So, You Got Engaged During Quarantine?
First and foremost, congratulations on your engagement! That is wonderful news, and I bet you are so excited to finally tie the knot with the love of your life. Now, wedding planning is generally something all engaged couples look forward to, but that euphoria might feel a bit dimmed this year. As you know, COVID-19 has truly put a hindrance on just about every industry, including wedding events. With social distancing, venues limiting guests, and the strict CDC guidelines; it can be hard to figure out how to begin planning your big day during these times. Here are a few tips for planning your wedding during quarantine.
However, you are not stuck despite what it may feel like. In fact, you can do several impactful things right now to begin planning your wedding. The day that you dreamed of is possible.
Ready to get started?
Pandemic or not, one of the first things you will need to do is pick a date. If you want to have the best chance at avoiding COVID-19 regulations due to a successful vaccine becoming available, then you might want to pick something that is far in advance. Alternatively, you can set something up sooner than later. Overall, the decision is entirely up to you, but you will need to pick a date, nonetheless.
Spend a day or so calling up different venues that you have your eye on. Ask them about their COVID-19 regulations, what you can expect, price, and if they are open on the date that you decided on. Some places may even offer virtual tours, outdoor wedding services, and feature technical advancements, meaning you can set up a zoom meeting for high-risk family and friends to witness your ceremony right at home.
The great thing about photography is that you can take beautiful pictures outdoors while still staying socially distant. With that being said, check around with local photographers who are willing to provide services right now. The best part is when you get those photos back, you can use them to create “save the date”. In addition, many times engagement photographers are also avid wedding photographers. So, you may be able to kill two birds with one stone.
It is never too early to start thinking about the color scheme that you want your wedding to look like. Maybe you had your eye on yellow and white or are toying with the Autumn leaves vibe. Whatever it may be, play with different concepts and take your time in designing the landscape that you and your future spouse want. Then proceed to contact florists and wedding designers to see if what you are envisioning is something that they can do.
Believe it or not, places like David’s Bridal and other iconic locations are open for business and taking appointments. Because of this, take advantage of the ability to go dress and tux shopping. You can even bring a bridesmaid along. Just keep in mind that though these locations are open, they may limit group sizes, so be sure to check on that first.
Take a moment and write your vows to each other. You can do this right in the comfort of your own home and can make it as touching, funny, or cute as you want it to be. Even though you might not read it for a while, it is smart to begin the process so you can tweak it if you wish as the date gets closer.
Wedding planning should be a joyous time for you and your future partner. Life tends to be unpredictable. No one saw COVID-19 coming or thought that it would cause a worldwide pandemic. Though we don’t know for sure when this adversity will end, it should not stop you from planning your wedding entirely. As you can see, there are plenty of fun and exciting things you can do right now while still being as safe as possible during this uncertain time.
In the end, please remember that you are not alone. Many couples are facing the same challenges you are right now and feeling defeated in their wedding visions. But the reality is that you can still be productive, enjoy your planning adventure, and be over the moon happy to get married. Just hang in there, do what you can, and be confident that when your big day finally arrives, it will be nothing but perfect.
Choosing a color scheme for your wedding
Wedding planning is full of decisions that need to be made and it can be overwhelming. One of the first decisions you’ll need to make is your color scheme. Choosing this upfront will make other decisions a whole lot easier. Here are some tips on how to choose your color theme:
Consider the venue. The venue will set the tone for your wedding, so the aesthetic should be in alignment. Is it a dark and rustic venue? Light and airy outdoorsy venue? Take this into consideration when choosing your color theme.
What are your priorities? If there is a specific detail you would like to incorporate into your wedding (i.e. a specific flower, family heirloom, etc) then make that a starting point for your palette.
Consider the season. Bright and colorful blooms for spring. Blush and silvers for winter. Rich jewel tones in fall. These all beautiful color palettes; however, you also do not have to confine yourself to sticking to the “rules”. Who says you can’t have bright and colorful in winter?
Go Monochromatic. Go for an ombré effect by choosing the lightest shade through the darkest shade. 50 shades of purple anyone? Speaking of shades, having a tough time matching colors? Check out the color wheel. Typically, colors across from one another on the color wheel pair well with each other. A cool tone matched with a warm tone.
Draw inspiration from unassuming places. Ditch the wedding magazines, inspiration is all around. Saw a Moroccan-inspired pillow at your local home goods store? In the paint section at the hardware store? What colors are you drawn to? Inspiration is literally everywhere.
Forget the rules and do what makes you happy. Want to do a deep cranberry and navy in summer? That’s fine. Pinks and pastels in winter. Also fine. This is your day. Do what makes you happy and say cheese for the camera.?
….a photographer and her shoes📸👠
Writing a Heartfelt Thank you Card
Saying It With Meaning.
In this digital age, it’s easy to forget that sometimes the best response is a paper thank you card.
A lot of us have lost the skill of hand writing because texting and emailing is what we do in this era of instant messaging. Nothing is wrong with that, really, but it certainly is not the appropriate response when writing a thank you card.
Here are a few tips to bear in mind when you’ve got to compose the perfect thank you note. Do it right, and the recipient will remember your graciousness always. Get it wrong, and they might miss the thank your message entirely!
1) The greeting should be informal. You don’t need to use “Dear” before writing the individual’s name unless this is a business thank you. If that’s the case, using “Dear” is fine. But if this is a thank you card for, let’s say, a wedding gift, begin with “Hello” and the person’s first name. And spell the name correctly! Nothing says ‘rushed’ like incorrectly spelling someone’s name on a thank you note, so take the time to confirm it, even if you think you know how it goes. Remember, even simple-sounding names like “Suzie” can be spelled unusually, like “Suzi,” perhaps, or even “Suzy.” Never assume you know.
2) Begin with why you’re thanking them, and be specific. Keeping with our example of thanking someone for a wedding gift, after the salutation, get straight to the thanks. A line like, “I’m writing to thank you for the lovely dishes you gave us on our wedding day” is clear, concise and to the point. Thank you cards aren’t meant to be lengthy diatribes. Use the 3 s’s as your guide- keep it short, simple, and sincere.
3) Say why their actions were so appreciated. Let’s say the dishes you received were on the list of wedding items you most wanted to receive, tell the recipient so. Say something along the lines of, “I know you had to order the dishes from out of town, and we greatly appreciate you going the extra mile to get them.” Again, one sentence usually sums up why you’re thankful, so be sure to include it.
4) The closing is just as important as the opening. When you finish the body of the card, close with “thanks again,” or words to that effect, do not use “yours truly” unless this is a business thank you for, perhaps, someone giving you an hour of their time at the office. If it’s a personal note, keep the closing personal too.
Thank you, cards have, in some ways, become a lost art since we have phones and computers so readily at our disposal. But they are every bit as vital as they’ve ever been, even if they’ve become a little less commonplace.
Writing someone a thank you card for their generosity or kindness should never fall out of fashion. Follow these tips, and even if you’ve never written one before, you can write a classy one, appreciated, and cherished. Sincerity is the key to a proper thank you card, so mean what you say, and the writing will take care of itself.
…..from a photographer and her shoes 📸👠
How Couples Can Compromise on Decorating: New spouses face challenges of blending decorating styles.
You’re madly in love, thrilled to be married, and are finally ready to move into that apartment you found just before the wedding. Or you can now afford to redecorate the space you’ve shared for a few years.
But on day one of the decorating revamp, your husband decides to bring that gargantuan, wagon wheel coffee table with him from his old place, something you assumed would be sent to a junk store or left on a curb. Or he drags it up from the basement, hoping you’ll finally let him display it.
What to do?
It’s massive, it’s ugly, and it doesn’t work with any of the design elements you’ve planned for your home. How do you break it to him that the item he’s loved since his school days is a hideous eyesore you wouldn’t put in your backyard? This is the newlywed stuff fights are made of, but they can be avoided if you think first, and speak and act with care. Here are some suggestions for keeping cool, compromising, and getting the home decor you both can live with and enjoy.
1) Don’t tell him he has terrible taste — tell him the item, or items, are terrible. Insulting him when you need him on board with the decorating choices you wish to make is a bad way to launch the discussion. Hurting his feelings is not your goal, right? Understand that he probably chose the ugly coffee table when he had few financial options to buy something better. Explain that it doesn’t work with the vision you have, then clearly and calmly explain what that vision is. Make sure he knows you include him in that vision, not simply imposing it on him.
2) Don’t go flat out feminine, or you’ll get push back. Men are usually pretty easy going about decorating, happy to leave the bulk of the decisions to their wives. But even the most laid-back guy resists pink accents everywhere, from toss cushions on the couch to decorative throws on the bed. Balance your girlie instincts with his masculine tastes. If you have space, give him a room to do up as a home office or man cave; there he’s free to make it as spartan, or modern, or dark as he sees fit. If you really can’t bear it once he’s decorating “his” space, keep the door closed.
3) Agree on neutral wall colors, and go from there. One of the leading principles of professional decorating is that you should start with a clean, neutral pallet, like off white or taupe on the walls and doorways. This is especially true when you’re decorating on a budget, as white shades don’t have to be blended and come with primer built into the paint. Add pops of color afterward, in furniture and cushions, and other points that draw the eye in. Couples have an easier time agreeing on these shades, too.
4) Decide what you can live with, and what you absolutely can’t. Okay, so that wagon wheel coffee table we mentioned has got to go. But what about that chair he absolutely loves that he got from his parents? Can you compromise and keep that? Think long and hard about whether you can indeed put up with a few of his ideas, and be sincere. If you truly hate the chair (or whatever item he’s insisting on keeping,) place it somewhere other than in plain, central view. Perhaps in the bedroom, so he has somewhere to sit, pulling up his socks, or in his home office. Doing this will demonstrate you’re willing to give in sometimes and consider his point of view on items he cherishes. And for heaven’s sake, do not get rid of anything he prizes without telling him! It’s fine to do that with old t-shirts that he never wears because they don’t fit him; donate them to a used clothing store, and he’ll never be the wiser. But items like furniture, particularly if they came from family, are another matter entirely.
These tips can help you negotiate delicate terrain when you start decorating your home together. Men are usually more relaxed about design and decor than women are, but it’s important that you’re gracious and include him in the decisions. Try to settle on a style before moving in together — boho chic? Traditional? Modern and sleek? That way, there won’t be too many nasty surprises in store when the move finally happens.
Remember, you’re in this together for the long haul. Don’t start a new life, or even a re-do of your existing home, with arguments and derision. You’ll never get what you want with that approach, and hurt feelings and an upset husband is not what you need, right? Be kind, be diplomatic, and before you know it, he’ll be leaving the decorating entirely in your hands.
Seven date-night ideas to keep the fire burning.
It is Super Bowl Sunday! Watching the game together is a great way for couples to bond. Date nights are important to a relationship. Here are a few inexpensive ways to spend quality time together in the Atlanta area.
1- Switch it up from Netflix & Chill and take it back old school with a movie at Starlight Six Drive-in: $7 per person
2- Speaking of nostalgia, head over to Joystick Gamebar and feel like a kid again at this old arcades game bar: $0.25+
3- The Painted Duck is also a fun date night out. Bowling, drinking, games, good times: $5
4- Take a stroll along the Beltline and admire the many murals along the way: Free
5- Chase waterfalls at Cochran Mill Park. Here you’ll find 18 miles of trails weaving and winding through the forest and several waterfalls as well: $5 for parking
6- Take a walk on the art side. Every second Friday of the month, stroll through Castleberry Hill and enjoy the amazing art scene during their monthly art stroll: Free
7- You can never go wrong with a picnic in the park. Pack you a basket and a blanket and head over to Piedmont Park for a little QT with your cutie
This weeks shoe pick are a pair of snakeskin wedges. Wear these and put a little spice in date night.
…..A photographer and her shoes. 📸👠
Make-up Artist MUA: Why having one is important.
Can we talk about make up for a moment? I talked about this earlier this month. If you have a photo session scheduled with your favorite photographer, I always recommend having your makeup professionally done. Why? Because…
1- A professional makeup artist knows how to properly apply makeup for all types of lighting situations that won’t leave you looking like Casper the friendly ghost when a camera flash is used.
2- A professional makeup artist can conceal and cover blemishes and even out skin tones which leaves you with a beautiful polished and finished look.
3- Professional cameras pick up everything! Blemishes, under eye bags and dark circles, etc.
4- It boosts your confidence! It’s something about having your makeup done that gives you that little extra boost of confidence and that translates on camera.
So, the next time you have professional photos taken, definitely consider having professional makeup done as well!
Tag some of your favorite Atlanta MUAs! #itanimages
The shoe pic for this week are a pair of sandals that one of my client wore to a black tie event.
…….a photographer and her shoes.
Selecting the right photographer for you.
Happy Soleful Sunday…. I missed last week because I was a little under the weather. Today along with posting one of my favorite pair of shoes for the week, I am also going to give a little advice because it is important for you to know. A lot of couples are planning for their big day. There is an overwhelming amount of choices for venues, cakes, dresses…and (sigh) Photographers.
One of the biggest decisions you will make about your wedding day is choosing your wedding photographer. This person(s) will be responsible for capturing all the incredible moments of one of the best days of your lives, so you want to make sure they are a good fit for you, and pretty darn good at their job. Here are some questions you may want to ask your potential photographer⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
1. How would you describe your working style? You want to see what type of photographer they are. Do they lay low, fade into the background, and capture things as they unfold naturally? Or do they take charge and set up shots?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
2. Are you the photographer that will be shooting my wedding? Will you have a second shooter or assistant?
3. Have you ever shot at my wedding venue?
4. What is your backup plan if you are unable to attend my wedding?
5. If my event goes beyond our agreed upon time, is there an extra charge?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
***BONUS***You need to ask yourself, “Do I vibe with this photographer? This is THE most important question you can ask. You will be spending a lot of time with your photographer, and you want to be comfortable with them and around them.
I want the absolute best for my clients, so I encourage them to shop around. A consultation does not have to be a commitment. Find who works for you #itanimages
Here is my shoe pick of the week. They are very comfortable.
….from a photographer and her shoes. 📸👠
Like most women, I am a lover of shoes — flats, heels, red, floral prints you name it. I will never admit to anyone how many pairs I own. I feel like it a little like asking a woman her age-“never ask a woman how many pairs of shoes she has.”
Because of my love for shoes, I decided that I wanted to create Soleful Sundays to talk with you about many things regarding photography and to give you a glimpse of what it is like to walk in the shoes of a wedding and portrait photographer. And of course, to share with you my shoe pick of the week. With this platform, I hope that I will be able to connect, inspire, and educate through sharing my experiences.
So today, I want to kick off the first post with this pair of ?Super She-ro pumps? with a little bling.✨
Wearing high heels have a way of elongating the legs and add a sensual flair to any outfit.
So, when you are planning your portrait session, remember to accent your outfit with a pair of comfortable stylish heels.
….A photographer and her shoes.
I met Kismet, this lovely bride, to be at the Chic Bridal show at the Fox theater. She was the bride to be that won our door prize. After a consultation, Kismet and Louis decided to hire me to share in their October wedding. This love story began with the couple meeting at a trendy neighborhood restaurant where they both grew up. It was an immediate connection, Phi Beta Sigma and Zeta Phi Beta. After fourteen months of dating, Louis popped the question in an intimate setting. Kismet said, “Yes.” They are excited to start the next phase of their lives together. I was thrilled that they decided to hire me, not only to document their wedding but also to capture their love in this Downtown Austell engagement session. So let us take a ride…
“ All aboard the love train❤️ ?, Louis and Kismet”….